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(As I get more time, I will BLN add more details to this story.)
When I moved to Crown Heights in 2018, I would frequent friends on Shabbos and sometimes during the week, and the conversation turned many times to "לא טוב להיות לבדו" and I should remarry.
I would state, "I had done it twice already and they both ended in divorce, and maybe marriage isn't for me. I have accepted that, and I'm happy with the lot Hashem has given me, and the way things are working out at this time."
My situation at that time was the following: I was living in Crown Heights in a 2-bedroom apartment, had a place to work, in addition to a business on the side that was paying for itself. Food in the cupboards and freezer, clean clothes to wear, a car that was just about paid off. 2 of my sons were living with me (and working with me), what more could a happy person ask for?
The follow-up question was: "Do you have someone in mind?" which was "no, but still."
Moving forward to March 2020, when Corona was in full swing, there was a WhatsApp group that I was part of called Kava Shtiebel. This group was an all-around mix of people of all ages, from 18-60+, males and females, plus from all different religious levels. This was an exclusive group, where you could only be added by the admin, and if someone had referred you to the group, that's how one got in.
Some of the conditions of the group were:
- You must be active. If you never post anything, you would get booted.
- No unsolicited messages to members of the opposite sex, without asking openly in the group beforehand. (also a cause for booting)
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